Episode 9 Level Up Your Selfie Podcast: Break Up with Toxic Behavior and Self-Sabotage - The Ultimate Glow-Up Move 🚀✨

Break Up with Toxic Behavior and Self-Sabotage: The Ultimate Glow-Up Move 🚀✨

Let’s be real—if self-sabotage was a person, they’d be the ex that keeps sliding into your DMs at 2 AM, whispering sweet nothings like “Maybe you’re just not ready yet” or “What if you fail?” And like a bad habit (literally), we keep falling for it. 🤦‍♀️

But here’s the deal: It’s time to cut ties with that toxic relationship and finally start showing up as the main character in your own damn life. If you’ve been playing small, waiting for the ‘perfect time,’ or talking yourself out of your own success, consider this your official breakup letter with self-sabotage. ✌️

Are You Your Own Red Flag? 🚩

Before we can kick toxic behaviors to the curb, we need to recognize them. So, let’s get brutally honest—are you constantly second-guessing yourself? Overthinking every move? Running from opportunities because deep down, the thought of actually succeeding feels… terrifying? If so, congratulations! You might be in a long-term, unhealthy relationship—with your own self-sabotaging habits.

Some classic signs you’re sabotaging yourself:

• Procrastination disguised as perfectionism. You tell yourself you’re waiting for the “right time” or that you need to be fully prepared before you start—but in reality, you’re just stalling. Newsflash: The ‘perfect time’ is about as real as a unicorn that pays your rent. 🦄💸

• Self-doubt masked as humility. You downplay your wins, deflect compliments, and shrink yourself to make others comfortable. Babe, if men can confidently put “CEO of My Life” in their Tinder bios after waking up before noon, you can own your damn success. 💁‍♀️

• Over-apologizing. For existing. For taking up space. For having boundaries. STOP THAT. You are not a burden, you’re a whole-ass masterpiece, and masterpieces don’t apologize for being admired. 🎨

• Fear of success. (Yes, it’s a thing!) The minute things start going well, you unconsciously find ways to screw them up because the unknown feels scarier than staying stuck. Growth is uncomfortable, but so is being broke and miserable. Pick your hard. 🤷‍♀️

Why Do We Do This?

Self-sabotage doesn’t just randomly show up like an ex who “just wants to talk.” It’s deeply rooted in fear, past conditioning, and limiting beliefs. Somewhere along the way, we picked up the idea that we aren’t really deserving of success, happiness, or abundance. Maybe it was childhood programming. Maybe it was that one teacher who told you to “be realistic.” Maybe it was that time you tried to step up, and life slapped you back down like a bad reality show contestant.

Whatever the reason, it’s time to rewire the narrative. 🚀

• Fear of failure. If you don’t try, you can’t fail, right? WRONG. That’s like refusing to board a plane because it might crash. Sure, staying on the ground feels safer, but you’ll never get anywhere.

• Fear of judgment. You worry what people will think if you step outside your comfort zone. Newsflash: They’re too busy scrolling TikTok to care. 🎭

• Addiction to comfort zones. Your brain loves familiarity, even if it sucks. Growth feels uncomfortable, but that’s where the magic happens.✨

My Personal Story: When Self-Sabotage Was My Toxic BFF 💔

For years, I was the queen of hiding behind the scenes. I convinced myself I wasn’t good enough to be in the spotlight. My ideas? Fantastic. My creativity? Off the charts. But I believed they needed someone shinier, bolder, more confident to bring them to life. 🚨 Major red flag thinking. 🚨

Meanwhile, I was out here handing my magic to others like free samples at a grocery store. 🛒

Then life decided to slap me with the ultimate plot twist: divorce, bankruptcy, family deaths, and an identity crisis so intense I could’ve charged rent for living in rock bottom. 30 kg heavier, mentally checked out, and running on autopilot, my only escape was my imagination—the thing I had been giving away to everyone else for free.

I had built my entire world around my ex, orbiting his existence like a devoted little moon, reflecting his light but never shining on my own. Then? BOOM. He left. Betrayal, ghosting, full heartbreak mode. And I was left staring at the wreckage of a life I had designed around someone else’s success. 💀

What I did next wasn’t glamorous. It wasn’t a quick-fix glow-up montage. It was messy, painful, and very unfiltered. But step by step, I started reclaiming my power. And guess what? It’s the best damn revenge story ever written. 📖✨

The Breakup Plan: How to Ditch Toxic Habits & Step Into Your Power

Now that we’ve called self-sabotage out for what it is—a manipulative, gaslighting little gremlin—it’s time to send it packing. Here’s your glow-up game plan:

1. Call Yourself Out – Next time you catch yourself spiraling, PAUSE. Recognize it. Say it out loud: “I’m sabotaging myself right now.” Awareness is the first step. 🛑

2. Rewrite the Narrative – Flip the script. Instead of “I always mess things up” say “I am learning and growing.” Your words shape your reality. ✍️

3. Detach from Perfectionism – Perfection is just procrastination in a designer outfit. Take messy action. Start before you feel ready. 💡

4. Make Discomfort Your New Normal – Growth should feel weird. If it doesn’t, you’re not pushing hard enough. 🏋️‍♀️

5. Take One Tiny Aligned Action Today – DM that collab. Sign up for that course. Hit “post.” No more waiting. 🚦

6. Celebrate Every Win (Even the Small Ones) – Your brain needs proof that you can succeed. Stop brushing off progress. 🎉

7. Have a ‘Reset Button’ Plan – You will slip up. You will have moments where old habits creep in. The key is to recognize it, reset, and keep going. 🔄

Final Pep Talk: Be the Main Character of Your Life 🎬

You are not a background character. You are the STAR of this show. So why are you still playing small? Waiting for permission? Newsflash: The perfect moment is a scam. It doesn’t exist. The only moment you have is right now.

Your dreams? Not too big. Your goals? Not too ambitious. The only thing standing in your way is that fear-ridden story you’ve been replaying like a bad mixtape. Rewrite it. Change the script. 🎭

Because life is happening NOW. And you? You are more than ready to take center stage. 🎤

It’s time to break up with self-sabotage—permanently.

Now go glow up. 🌟🔥

And as always—Extra Rainbow Sparkles Upon You! 🌈✨ And Good Vibes Only. 💖

//Angelina Mi Lajki

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